My picture book Real Sisters Pretend (Tilbury House Publishers 2016) was inspired by a conversation I overheard two of my daughters having about adoption after a stranger questioned whether they were “real sisters.” My daughters, pictured here with their youngest sister, are not biologically related to one another; but there is no doubt that these three girls are real sisters, with bonds created through shared love and experience, no matter how others may question this truth.
I recently received an email from a reader who shared Real Sisters Pretend with her four-year-old daughter after some of her peers told her that her baby sister was not her “real sister.” She said that I could share her note, so I am posting it here, with thanks to this loving mom who took the time to write to me:
Date: Sat, November 26, 2016 8:12 pm
To: megan @ megandowdlambert.com
Hi Megan,I am an adoptive Mom with a 4 year old and 10 month old at home. We talk adoption A LOT at home and both girls have open adoptions. When my oldest came home from preschool two weeks ago she announced from the back seat that she could no longer play with her baby sister. She explained to me that we were a white family and her sister was brown. She told me that her friends at school told her they were not “real sisters” and that they shouldn’t play anymore.I read every book about skin color we owned and started through our adoption collection but none of them addressed the “real” issue – that they WERE REAL SISTERS! I found your book at our local library in Vermont. We started to read it on our way home while I was pumping gas… we couldn’t wait to finish it. This book was exactly what our family needed at exactly the right time. I’m now getting the book for Christmas as well as a copy for my daughter’s classroom. I have been invited in to read the book and discuss adoption.Thank you!!
Finally, five of my six kids are included in a photo in Shelly Rotner and Sheila M. Kelly’s beautiful Families book, alongside text explaining that sometimes people in a family don’t look alike. Here they are at The Odyssey Bookshop holding the
book open to the page that features them (though their eldest brother pictured in the book was away at college and not present at the bookstore that day, while the baby in the bookstore was not born in time to be in the book’s picture!).